RET/REBT SELF-HELP
RATIONAL VS IRRATIONAL BELIEFS:
According to Dr. Albert Ellis an idea is irrational if:
1.It distorts reality.
2.It is illogical.
3.It prevents you from reaching your goals.
4.It leads to unhealthy emotions.
5. It leads to self-defeating behavior.
EXAMPLES OF IRRATIONAL BELIEFS:
1.Shoulds
2.Oughtas
3.Gottas
4.Musts (Musterbation)
5.Demanding (Demandingness is always irrational and can always be ignored) 6.Commanding
ABC METHOD:
Thoughts (Cognitions) -> Feelings (Emotions) -> Actions (Behavior)
A. Activating Event
B. Irrational Belief
C. Consequence
D. Dispute Irrational Belief (see Disputing Irrational Beliefs - below)
E. Effective New Belief
Dispute #1: Is their any evidence my belief is true?
Dispute #2: is there any evidence my belief is false?
Dispute #3: What good can I make happen if I give up my belief?
Dispute #4: What bad can I easily make happen if I keep up my belief?
ELLIS’ BASIC IRRATIONAL ASSUMPTIONS
Irrational Idea No. 1: The idea that it is a dire necessity for an adult human being to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in his community...
Irrational Idea No. 2: The idea that one should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if one is to consider oneself worthwhile...
Irrational Idea No. 3: The idea that certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and that they should be severely blamed and punished for their villainy...
Irrational Idea No 4: The idea that it is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way one would very much like them to be...
Irrational Idea No 5: The idea that human unhappiness is externally caused and that people have little or no ability to control their sorrows...
Irrational Idea No 6: The idea that if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome one should be terribly concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of its occurring...
Irrational Idea No 7: The idea that it is easier to avoid than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsibilities...
Irrational Idea No 8: The idea that one should be dependent on others and needs someone stronger than oneself on whom to rely...
Irrational Idea No 9: The idea that one's past history is an all-important determiner of one's present behavior and that because something once strongly affected one's life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect..
Irrational Idea No 10: The idea that one should become quite upset over other people's problems and disturbances..
COPING WITH GRIEF
“Guilt (or shame) is a childhood emotion, induced by others (parents, etc) which is inappropriate for adults.” (Adults take responsibility for their behavior)
Albert Ellis, PhD
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